Pleasure Pursuit Parties FAQs
Q) Where do you hold the parties?
A) In our home in central Exeter. EX2 postcode. We will send the full address details to those on the list a few days before the party.
Q) Is there accommodation nearby?
A) We are within a 10-minute walk of several hotels to suit a wide range of budgets, from a backpackers' hostel to Hotel du Vin.
Within 5 minutes of Mercure Southgate, Premier Inn, White Hart, Hotel du Vin, Southernhay House, Holiday Inn Express
Q) Do you charge an entrance fee?
A) We ask for a modest contribution of £60 per couple or single male towards the costs of hosting. Single ladies don’t pay. This is collected in cash on the door, or can be paid by bank transfer by prior arrangement.
Q) Is there a bar?
A) We don’t sell drinks, you are guests in our home and we provide a good range of alcoholic and soft drinks. If there is a particular favourite drink that you enjoy, let us know in advance and we will try and get it in.
Q) How can you justify charging £60?
A) We provide the use of a hot tub, two playrooms, a sex swing and plenty of naughty toys. The costs of hosting include food and drink, draining, sanitising and refilling the hot tub, sanitising the toys, cleaning and restoring our home back to its homely state.
Q) How many people attend?
A) Usually between 8 and 14 couples, plus some singles. We always aim for a gender balance but sometimes people who say they’re coming will drop out late or will just not show up.
Q) Do I need to book?
A) Yes, please. Let us know you’re planning to come and we will put your name on the list. If you’re on the list, you can come in. We can’t accommodate ‘walk ins’.
Q) Do you publish a list of who’s coming?
A) For reasons of discretion, we don’t publish the names of people who are attending. Rest assured, we work hard to select only people who we think will be compatible. If you’re concerned about whether a particular person or couple whom you’re trying avoid is on the list, let us know their names and we’ll let you know if they’re planning to come.
Q) Do you allow single male guests?
A) We carefully vet a small number of single guys, based on referrals from people we know, profile bios and the way a person interacts with us when messaging. We try where we can to meet solo guys socially before inviting them. The number of single guys will depend on how many solo females have booked. We aim for a gender balance.
Q) How do you communicate the venue address?
A) We prefer to use WhatsApp and we have a group chat set up but if you prefer to stay off the group, we can send details directly by WhatsApp or SMS.
Q) Why can’t I send messages to the group on the group chat?
A) As the group grew in size, we found that there were so many messages being exchanged, which only tenuously related to the parties, that many people were muting the chat or leaving altogether. The chat is for sending messages about the party but if you’d like us to post something, along the lines of ‘we’re meeting for pre-party drinks at the local pub, come and say hi’, we will gladly do so.
Q) It’s my first party, what is the etiquette?
1. Consent is key. No means no.
2. Know your boundaries before you attend a party. Discuss as a couple beforehand and arrange with each other how you’re going to communicate when in the company of another couple.
3. Don’t come with any expectations. If you don’t meet anyone who’s feeling the vibe and you don’t play, at least you’ll have met some interesting people and you may also have seen some stuff you don’t see in your local local pub on a Saturday evening!
4. If you arrive as a couple, please leave as a couple.
5. Respect people’s discretion. No photos without consent and if you do take photos, please keep them for personal use. Remember, this is our home and there are many distinguishable features that are recognisable to our vanilla friends and family. We don’t want them posted on any social media.
6. Be discreet when arriving and leaving. We want our neighbours to continue to be blissfully unaware of the nature of our parties.
7. Have a drink but be a grown up. Drink responsibly. There’s nothing like a drunk to spoil the vibe.
8. Be safe. There are plenty of condoms provided. Be respectful when you’ve used one and you’re disposing of it. We provide plenty of bins and condoms are not a pleasant thing for our cleaner to find later.